***crack, crack…*** that’s a popping sound of my fingers when I bent
them before starting to write… we’ll that means I’m dead serious and
I have really a dagger-to-the-heart post!
Subject on the spotlight?
"LOVE"
Guess
what? I just realized this week that I’m a philosopher… why? Coz I
sometimes just sit and wonder and try to link the dots of my imperfect
knowledge in relation to what I’ve observe on the world around me, I’ve
been doing this since I can remember, trying to simplify life and
explain…simplify and explain… simplify and explain…
This week I just stumbled to thinking of about "LOVE"
And
that’s why I’m discussing love… I’m going to attempt to dissect such
phenomenon and simply it to the best of my capability…
BOOOM! I’m throwing a wild card…
"I REALLY THINK LOVE IS OVERRATED"
I
mean what is love really? … I guess that’s kinda hard to explain
huh?… especially if take out sex in the equation then you have you
grade A confusion fuck up in your hands…
Most can relate
that Love is a feeling of… "I wanna be with him/her forever", "I cant
stop thinking of him/her" "I feel butterflies in my stomach when I’m
around him/her"…
Ennkkk!!!! That’s not love! that’s raging
hormones… you usually go into that stage in about 1-9 mo’s in your
relationship. Where everything is hot and and you feel more flashes of
light bulbs than The Las Vegas Strip.
Recently, I’ve been
readily accepting the idea that a man and a woman were not programmed
to be living together forever, holding hands, feeling the breeze,
walking to the sunset horizon as most love stories are depicted.
Have You notice that when a courtship or engagement goes more than 3-4 years they don’t usually end up in a wedding?
I
believe I found the explanation…during pre-historic times (I believe
in evolution, if you don’t, then just pretend you do coz this is my
post and it makes things simpler if we debate one thing at a time),
theorist suggest that a man and a woman, meet and copulate. The man
stays with the woman for about 4 years coz after this time, the child
would have been old enough to walk and fend for himself a little bit.
So the man leaves the woman and child and starts to look for another
woman to copulate.
Harsh it may seem but that’s how our
brain used to function. Before it became a mammalian brain it used to
be a reptilian brain, which basically has two things that are
programmed to its 8mb RAM. SURVIVE AND REPLICATE!
Oh
hush!… I hear what your saying… "We are already modern humans, we
don’t think like that anymore" … yes we are modern only to a certain
point… Ill introduce you to my favorite saying of the subject matter.
"Millions of years of evolution can not just be changed by thousands of years of civilization"
Got
that? … it means that this whole love, live forever and marriage
thing is just made up by civilization. Civilization at best started
about 5000 years ago… 5000 vs. millions of years, got the picture?
And
look around you… the marriage break ups has never been so high since
recorded history, or at least since we’ve been taking marriage
statistics.
As you might have notice that the past
generations took heavy importance of "What will the neighbors think"
attitude or "I cant break up coz its my duty". Which may have caused
less marriage breakups but obviously caused countless burned to the
grill unhappy marriage.
Generations today are more
independent thinking. They are on "I’m doing this coz it makes me happy
and I don’t care" attitude. That’s why divorce or marriage split ups
are on an all time high.
But what about those couple that do stay together as they grow old…
We’ll I’ve been pondering that, and I came to think that maybe…
"THEYRE JUST TOGETHER COZ ITS MORE OF A ROUTINE RATHER THAN LOVE"
So I’m beginning to think of this whole love process
I. attraction > II. "so called love" > III. routine (for those who grow old together)
or
I. attraction > II. "so called love" > shit-happens-break-up
elaborated…
* attraction - weeks to months upon meeting of boy/girl
* "so called love" - 1yr-5yr of being together where they start to build they’re habits and routines
* routine - which goes 5 years to lifetime…
You can be saying right now…
"Oh Jed your just saying that coz you failed at love…"
Maybe… who knows… I’m not even sure about that…
But
I do know that I don’t hate girls/ladies/women… Hell! I love them so
much I’m always around them… My bed buddies will tell you that I’m
sweet and gentle… My ex-gfs will tell you that I’m thoughtful and
caring… My Friends will tell you that I respect and look up to them…
So why am I bitter to it LOVE then?…
I’m not really sure…but here’s my theory…
"IM
WAITING FOR THAT GIRL… THAT SINGLE GIRL… THAT ONE GIRL… THAT
COULD AND WOULD PROVE ME WRONG FOR WHAT I JUST WROTE IN THIS POST"
… funny thing is, I
thought I just met her… well it fizzled out though if really want to
ask… oh well I guess shit happens *** again… "next"…
But
hey, If i dont find her… Its still cool then, as I said Im ready to
accept the fact the no couple should live forever… This whole
you-need-partner-to-be-happy concept is all made up by society anyway
if you ask me. Ill just get myself a kid and hang with friends, get bed
buddies and WOOT! life is gud…
…
one last interesting tidbit, I named my cat after her… we’ll if you
think that’s romantic, ITS NOT!… I just named it after her so every
time I see my cat, It will remind me, to not make those same mistakes
that made her go haywire in case I finally met the "one"… "weakness
to strength my young apprentice, weakness to strength…"
… oh! please leave you comment, id love to hear what you think…
